43 - Masculine & Feminine Energy in Business: find your balance and create more clarity & calm

In this episode of Pepp Talks, I'm exploring the interplay of masculine and feminine energy in business. Discover what each energy brings (and when it becomes a problem), learn how to check in with where you currently are, and get actionable steps to bring your energy back into balance - so you can create a business that feels aligned, calm and powerful.

Key Takeaways:

• Defining masculine vs feminine energy (and why it’s not about gender)
• The strengths and shadow sides of each energy in business
• Why a blend of both is essential for sustainable success
• Reflective questions to check in with your current energy
• Simple action steps to re-balance your energy

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Transcript

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Hello and welcome back to Pep Talks. I hope you've had an incredible week since we last spoke. Today we are coming back to the topic of energy, but this time my focus is about the balance or the dance, I guess, between masculine and feminine energy. And I'm going to talk with you about why it's so important as a business owner that we have a blend of the two, and some of the ways that you can do that if you're feeling like you might be more in your masculine or more in your feminine. So I'm going to share with you what each of these energies are, what the positives are from each of them, what the traits are associated with each of these energy types, and where they might actually be a bit of a downfall, the sort of negative or the darker or the shadow side of these energies, and how they might have a negative impact on your business, your success, and your life for that matter, if you are swaying too much in one or other of the directions. Whether you're, you know, if you're a bit too much in your masculine, what's the impact of that? If you're too much in your feminine, what's the impact of that? And that's what we're going to talk about today. But before we get into this, I just want to share with you that if you're listening to this when it goes out live, this is going out on the 10th of November. That firstly we are exploring this in more detail in tomorrow's Clarity and Calm Journaling Circle. This is my free journaling circle. I run it every Tuesday evening. It's a beautiful, reflective, intimate, friendly, judgment-free zone where you can come and I can guide you through, or I will guide you through, some powerful journal prompts that help you get a bit more self-aware, reflect on things, and understand yourself, your business, your vision better, and also leave the session with a bit of an action plan. It's clearly not a coaching call, it is just for you to come and do some reflection work, but it is honestly, it's just such a beautiful space to hang out in on a Tuesday evening. So if that sounds like something you're interested in, click the link down in the show notes, grab your free ticket, and if you can't make it tomorrow night for the topic of feminine and masculine energy, then join me next week. I run them every Tuesday evening. Click that link, and whether you're joining me tomorrow or in a few weeks' time, that link will give you your ticket to access these free journaling circles. I would love to see you there. The second thing I just want to share with you is that my doors are currently open for Simplify. This is my hybrid coaching and mentorship program. I won't go into masses of detail here. This is not a place for me to, you know, do a whole heap of selling to you. But if you are somebody who is looking to simplify your life and your business to create more time, freedom, space, energy, flow, ease, and peace in your life, then this is the program for you. If you are interested in finding out a little bit more, drop me a message and we can jump on a quick call and chat things through, suss out whether it's a good fit for you, or click the link down in the show notes again where you can find out a bit more information about it. And then if you're interested, of course, you can book in a call with me. So they're the two things I just wanted to share with you before we get into today's episode the free journaling circle and the fact that the doors are currently open to simplify. They are only open for another week or so. So if this is something that you're curious about, if this is something you want to explore a bit more, then now is the time. Do not wait, do not hesitate, um, get in touch and we can explore that further if you wish to. Right, today's episode then, masculine and feminine energy. So let's have a chat first about what masculine energy is. This is your actually, and before I go into this, I should just highlight to you that we're not talking about male and female energy. We're not talking about the energy associated with a particular gender. We all carry, whatever gender we identify with, we all carry masculine and feminine energy. And whether you are a female, which you probably are if you're listening to this, that doesn't necessarily mean that you are going to be more in your feminine energy. In fact, for me, as a female, I tend to sway towards the masculine energy, and I have to do things to make sure I bring my feminine energy on track. Um, you might resonate more with the feminine energy side of things, and so you may well need to focus a little bit more on how you can bring your masculine energy into play. So I just want to put that out there at the offset. This is not about gender, it is not about how you identify on a um on a gender spectrum. This is purely about our inner energy and which energy we are utilizing at any point in time and which energy we are more generally swayed towards. We will always have a preference, and having that awareness about what that preference is means we can obviously make sure that we bring things a bit more back into balance. And I'm going to go into that in a little moment, in a few minutes, and share with you some ideas on how you can bring things back into balance, whether you're swaying more towards the masculine or more towards the feminine. Right, so masculine energy. This is your organizational, your logical, rational, strategic, structured energy. It's the energy of willpower and discipline and focus and hustling and grinding. It is also the energy of leadership, it's action-oriented, it's goals-oriented, it is your doing energy. Your masculine energy gives you purpose, it gives you direction, and it helps you to solve problems. Now, as a business owner, we need all of those things, right? We need direction, we need action, we need to be the leaders in our businesses, we need some discipline. We do need to occasionally put in the grind. We don't want to be doing that all the time, but there are occasions when it is necessary for us to put our foot on the pedal and damn well go for it. We also need to be organized and structured. But if we lean too much into our masculine, this can often end up with us being stressed, we can feel like we need to be in control of everything, we can be focusing on our achievements rather than our progress, which if we're only focusing on the achievements, that can obviously feel like we're not, that can sorry, often feel like we're not achieving enough fast enough rather than focusing on what we have already achieved and how far we have already come, aka the progress we have already made. In your masculine energy, if you're too far into it, you're always looking for the next thing, you're always wanting more, you're not stopping to reflect on how far you've come, you're forcing things, you're often in fight or flight mode. There can be a level of hyper independence, and all of this can ultimately result in burnout. So that's not a place we want to be all of the time. Yes, we need some of those traits to be within our day-to-day as we run our business and as we make sure we get stuff done within our life as well, but we don't want to be so deeply in our masculine energy that we end up overly stressed and ultimately burnt out. So, as I said, I will share with you some tactics on how to pull away from that masculine energy a little bit, or rather, how to bring more of your feminine feminine energy into the play so that you've got a bit more balance. I'll share that with you in a moment, but let's talk now about what the feminine side of things looks like, what the feminine energy looks like. This is all about cooperation, collaboration, connection. It's about flow and sensuality and being soft and nurturing. It's all about your intuitive edge and being able to tune into your body, that nervous system response, your emotional response, your energy that's in your body, it's about your inner wisdom, it's about support and allowing, surrendering, listening. It's about authenticity, it's your being energy. Your masculine energy is very much your doing energy, your feminine energy is your being energy. Who are you being? It is not passive. Quite often people will think that the masculine energy, as it's a much more of an action-oriented energy, therefore would suggest that the feminine energy is passive. It is not, it is massively intentional. It's not passive. But the shadow side of your feminine energy, when you are too much in your feminine energy, this is when you can become a bit scattered. You might be too accommodating, people pleasing coming into play. You might be lacking motivation and drive, and you're too adaptable, thinking about maybe always thinking about the next thing, the shiny object, rather than focusing on the direction you're already heading in. That scattered energy, that scattered focus, that scattered approach doesn't work in business. But we do need to lean into our intuition. We need to be receptive to the messages that we might be hearing and feeling. We need to get into flow and we definitely need to be collaborating and connecting with people. I've already shared an entire episode on this just a couple of weeks ago, where I shared about the power of networking for my business and how it's really positively impacted on my business. And I honestly believe that the connection piece, particularly in the digital world that we're currently in, the connection piece is so powerful when it comes to business success. So hopefully you're already seeing from what I've shared here that we do need a balance between the masculine, doing, organizational, structured, driven, motivated, willpower-driven energy and the more flowing, intuitive, collaborative, receptive, supportive energy that comes from the feminine energy. We need all of this to really build a successful and sustainable business. We can't really have one without the other. As I've already shared, too much masculine energy, you're going to feel stressed, overwhelmed, heading towards burnout, too much feminine energy, and you're not actually going to be taking the steps that you need to take to move you towards your goals. So we definitely need a blend of the two. So, how do we bring that blend about? Well, the first step is self-awareness, it's understanding where you're currently at. So, based on the descriptions I've just provided, maybe take a moment right now to think about whether you feel you are swaying more into your masculine energy or whether currently you are leaning more into your feminine energy. And from that awareness, we can then start to think: okay, do I need to tweak things a little bit? Is it just a slight imbalance that's going on here, or am I very, very heavily leaning in one direction? And if you're heavily leaning in one direction, then we need to do something to bring things a bit more back into balance. It's never going to be a perfect 50-50, and neither should it. There's always going to be days and weeks when you need to be more in your masculine energy, and there'll be days and weeks when you need to be more in your feminine energy. And even when they are more in balance, it's still not going to be a 50-50 because we do have a natural predisposition, a preference, I guess, to be in one energy or the other. But if we can get them as close to balance as possible, particularly as things ebb and flow over time, that's when we're going to hit that sweet spot. That's when we're going to have the all the positives of the masculine energy and all the positives of the feminine energy all like blending together beautifully, like a perfectly baked cake that's going to help us move our business forwards in a way that feels really bloody good. So, step number one, self-awareness. Where are you right now? Are you more deeply in your masculine energy or are you more deeply in your feminine energy? Is there a reason why you're currently in one of those energies? For me at the moment, because I'm in launch mode for Simplify, I am most definitely sitting more in my masculine energy at the moment. And I need that right now because I'm in sales mode. I'm in launch mode. I need to have the discipline, the structure, a little bit of grind to get me to the point that brings people into my world and brings people into becoming paying clients. Once I'm through that period, I can obviously take a little step back, start to reflect on things, and maybe you know step a bit more into my feminine energy. That's not to say though, at the moment, even though I'm more in my masculine, it's not to say that I'm not taking steps to bring some femininity, some feminine energy into my world as well. I'm still going on walks in nature, I'm still taking time in the morning for myself to get into my body, to tune in, to listen to any messages that are coming through for me. So there is still some touch points on my feminine energy, but yeah, I am definitely sitting in masculine a little bit more at the moment. And being very honest with you, I am a very organized, structured, logical person, and so my natural tendency is to be more in my masculine, and so I have to work quite hard to make sure that I bring my feminine into play. Um, so with that self-awareness and understanding how far out of balance you might be, and whether there might be a reason for it, and it's just a specific short-term reason, then we can start to think about well, do I need to do something to bring it back into balance, or is this just how it is for the next week or month? And if that's the case, then that's great. If though you're sitting there and you're thinking, actually, I'm far too far into my feminine energy at the moment, I'm not taking aligned action in my business, I don't feel driven, I don't feel like I'm very disciplined, my strategy and my structure are all over the place, I am a bit scattered, then we need to think about taking action to bring your masculine energy on board. So bearing in mind that the masculine energy is all about organization, logic, strategy, structure, and so on. I guess the first thing you want to do is sit down and really think about the goals. Really think about your vision, where you're heading in your business and in your life. This can all apply to your life as well. I'm going to look at it from a business angle for this, for the purposes of this podcast. So, yeah, what are your goals? What's your vision? And what's your first next step to get you closer to that vision? And once you've taken that step or thought through that step, what's the next step after that? And this will give you a bit of structure, a little bit of focus, a bit of direction, and it will help you to you know to be um aligned with your goal and take the actions that are going to get you there. So that would be the starting point when it comes to your masculine energy and bringing that back on board. When it comes to your feminine energy, so if you're sitting way too much in your masculine energy at the moment and you want to bring your feminine energy into play, then maybe think about getting out in nature, doing some exercise, going for a coffee, meeting up with a friend, doing something creative like colouring or art or knitting or creative writing or dancing, something that brings that more sort of flowy, feminine, um, intuitive, creative energy on board. And you will probably know what works for you. And if you want to explore this further, then please come along to tomorrow's journaling circle or get in touch with me, and I can offer you some more specific guidance that's tailored to you and your lifestyle and what works for you. Just trying to give you a little bit of a flavour of things really on this podcast. So, just a reminder, and just to pull this all into a sort of nice little summary for you. We want the masculine, we want the structure, we want the strategy, we want the discipline, but we also need the feminine, we want the connection, collaboration, intuition, the softer side of things, the flow side of things, the surrendering. We need all of these things to build a business that we love, a business that's successful, and a business that doesn't ultimately end with us being in burnout. So think of take some time, take some time over this cut the coming days to really reflect on where you're currently at and think about what actions you can take to bring on board the energy that is currently maybe missing or out of balance. As I said at the very start, and I've touched on a couple of times throughout, if you do want to explore this further, I would really, really love to see you in tomorrow evening's Clarity and Calm Journaling Circle. This particular topic of this episode is in the 11th of November Clarity and Calm Journaling Circle. We'll of course be exploring a different topic each week. So if this isn't the topic that you need to explore, tune into my podcast weekly because the the idea is that each weekly podcast is going to match the journaling circle topic. So that you've got a nice little bundle of self-reflection in the journaling circle and me giving you my words of wisdom about that particular topic inside these podcast episodes. And just to remind you again, if you're curious even about Simplify and you would love to have a chat with me about it, then just drop me a message, drop me an email, or click on the link in the show notes and you can read a little bit more about Simplify and book a call directly through that link. I will love you and leave you there. Have a fabulous week. I hope this has given you some food for thought and some ideas as to how you can bring your energy a bit more back into balance. 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